Surrogates Ready to Match!
Taryn
Age: 24
Location: Indiana
Relationship Status: Single
Prior deliveries: 1
Experienced surrogate: No
SET
Termination views: Parental decision
Covid vaccine: No
Insurance: Needs insurance
Letter To Intended Parents
Years ago, I heard about surrogacy and the reasons couples might need someone to carry their baby. I was hooked even then, but I hadn't had a successful birth yet. Now that I've had my son and I've finished breastfeeding, I just want to be apart of giving someone else the blessing of having a child that is their own. My son is the light of my life, and I feel that anyone who has gone through the grueling process of becoming an IP deserves to experience the same joy I have.
RelationshipI would want to have whatever relationship you all desire. Do you want to be fully present and there at every appointment? I'd love that. You don't want to be present until birth? That's fine with me. Desire to be there during the entire delivery? Absolutely, not a problem. It is truly your journey and I am just the vessel to help get you all to the finish line. I just want to meet your expectations.
Post Birth
This is your journey. If you all wanted me to be present for breastfeeding, I'd be there. If you want me to pop in from time to time, I'd love to. I am also completely comfortable with you all saying you do not want me present at all after birth. Again, I am just th vessel to help you all reach your goal. So I will be willing to follow whatever plans you all have.
Delivery Experience
I don't have any specific expectations regarding delivery. Just want to have a safe delivery. If you all want to be present, I'd love that and it is my preference. But it truly is up to you all as the intended parents.
TerminationI would hope to not have to terminate any little baby, however I understand that the decision is not mine. These embryos, these lives are in your hands. I am simply a vessel.
Brittney
(Brittney is interested in a natural cycle!)
Age: 32
Location: Maryland
Relationship Status: Single
Prior deliveries: 4
Experienced surrogate: No
SET
Termination views: NO termination- only if her life was at risk
Covid vaccine: No
Insurance: Needs insurance
Letter to Intended Parents:
Dear IPs,Thank you for considering me when choosing who to let carry and nourish your child. Children are a huge blessing, so very precious, and I know in your situation, very fought for! I want to be a surrogate because I know the joy of being a parent- it's beautiful, challenging, and so very worth it. I know how difficult fertility struggles can be for families, and I want to see more families grow. I understand that the vast majority of IPs desperately want to be parents and would certainly carry their own child if only they could. I know I have a healthy active body, and I enjoy the sacredness of pregnancy and birth (carrying a life inside of you, whether it's your child or not is a tremendous gift and responsibility). All of my children were born healthy and full term, and their deliveries were all safe, beautiful and peaceful. My oldest was an unmedicated vaginal hospital birth. My other three were all born peacefully at home in the birth pool. I know choosing a GC is a huge task, and one that I know takes careful consideration. I am happy to answer all of your questions, open and honestly. I am not a perfect woman, but I am a woman full of love and compassion and a desire to serve. I am a faith-filled woman, who knows Jesus is my Lord and Savior, and I hope that by doing a surrogacy journey, I will be a light in my IPs life, and the life of their child.
Relationships
I would love to have an open, friendly relationship with my IPs. Do I hope we become good friends? Yes, absolutely, but it's not a requirement. I am not in a rush to choose IPs, as I want it to feel like the perfect match on both ends. I hope to text on a regular basis (weekly?), just to check in and share any updates. I hope the IPs can attend as many appointments as they would like to. I hope to find IPs who respect my autonomy- and want me to be just as healthy and their child. I am a very well educated and informed woman in the pregnancy and birthing space, as I have four children and have been a birth doula for 10years. I know the normal risks that pregnancies have, and I know some of the additional risks that IVF pregnancies have. I am open to learning with the IPs and navigating anything that comes as a team.
As for the IVF process- I am looking for IPs (and clinic) who are open to and desire a cycle that is as natural as possible. I have a very normal, regular cycle, and I would like to keep it that way.
Post Birth
I would like to maintain a friendship post birth. I don't want to feel like I was just a uterus that is disregarded post birth. Birthday updates and photos would be greatly appreciated. I hope to stay in contact with the family and check in on how everyone is doing throughout the years. If a deeper, more meaningful relationship develops and we spend more time in contact/visiting, that would be nice but certainly isn't expected.
Delivery Experience
As mentioned, I am very knowledgeable in the birthing space, and know I want to be treated with kindness, respect, and always receive informed consent. I want both myself and the IPs to know what is happening each step of the way, I hope the IPs will take an out-of-hospital childbirth education class so that they understand the ins and outs of childbirth and can feel more comfortable. Knowledge is power and understanding the physical and mental aspects of childbirth will help you feel more confident in making decisions. I would like the IM to be in the room for the birth of her child, and possibly the IF. Having the IF in the room, will depend on our relationship and if that level of comfort develops. I would want him close by so he could step into the room and meet his child ASAP.
Termination
I have a firm no-termination stance. I would only terminate if my own life was at risk, and it was confirmed that was the case by multiple physicians. I believe in a God of miracles, and I believe all life is worth honoring, cherishing and living, even if only for a short while.
Kristy
Age: 42
Location: Florida
Relationship Status: Long term partner
Prior deliveries: 3
Experienced surrogate: Yes- 2 journeys
SET
Termination views: Parental decision
Covid vaccine: Yes
Insurance: Unsure- needs to be reviewed
Letter To Intended Parents
Hi, my name is Kristena. I’ve had the incredible experience of being a surrogate twice. I have a 7-year-old son named Bentley, and my long-term partner and I have been together for 10 years. My partner has 6 children, including Bentley.
I’m fortunate to still have a positive relationship with both families I carried for, leaving the level of communication up to them. During my last surrogacy journey, we shared a lot of special moments, like baby shopping and going out to dinners—it was a truly wonderful experience.
I love being pregnant and am grateful that I typically don’t experience morning sickness. Both of my previous surrogacy journeys were successful, with the embryo transfers taking on the first try each time.
Relationships
This is up to the family on what they would like.
Post Birth
This is also up to the parents so we know how the relationship will be. I can send lots of pictures and text or not that is up to the family.
Delivery Experience
Its up to them if they want to be in the room
Termination
Up to the parents